Whispers of thought: Why Are People Ruder Than Ever? The Slow Death of Manners

It’s a feeling many of us share: politeness and respect for others seem to be in decline. It’s no longer common for someone to give up their seat on public transport, wait for others to exit before entering a place, or apologize after bumping into someone. Saying thank you? Almost unheard of.

Another everyday example is phone usage: people playing music out loud in shared spaces or having loud conversations as if the rest of the world didn’t exist. This lack of consideration seems to have become the norm in many parts of the world, especially in large cities.

Why Are We Losing Civility?

One key factor could be the lifestyle we lead. Megacities, with their fast pace and anonymity, have made human interactions increasingly impersonal. If we don’t know our neighbors or have ties with those around us, empathy diminishes. In the past, it was common to greet the baker on the corner or know the bus driver, but today those connections have faded into the rush of daily life.

Technology also plays a role. Digital communication has reduced face-to-face interaction, and many etiquette norms that were passed down through generations are disappearing. If we spend more time on social media than in real-life conversations, our sensitivity to others is likely to be affected.

Where Are We Headed?

We shouldn’t be fatalistic, but the trend isn’t optimistic. However, there are still people who uphold courtesy and respect. A simple “thank you,” giving way, or apologizing can make a difference. The key is not to let ourselves be swept away by indifference and to continue promoting civility through small everyday gestures.

Instead of resigning ourselves, we can choose to be part of the change. Perhaps, by setting an example, we can inspire others to regain the value of coexistence.